Okay so, I am going to get real here. Some people have asked me if we are still fundraising. The answer is yes. We are fundraising for ONE more month. Most families who adopt raise their funds BEFORE they adopt there baby. That was not the case for us. We didn’t have the opportunity because of the urgency of the situation. After being active for ONE WEEK (“being active” means that we legally could be placed with a child), we got the call. The call that we thought we were going to get much much later. “The call” is when the social worker called us and let us know that we have a daughter! This was the best, most terrifying, exiting call of my life. Now we have our baby girl. And we sure lucked out. She is my FAVORITE. But, it was a surprise to get her so quickly. I know that there are people who wait years to meet their child. We have an adventure story to tell her when she gets big.
When we adopted Nelly we had to take out $35,000 in loans. They needed the full funds within 24 hours of when we got “the call”. We had to take out a loan because we didn’t have the funds available. For me $35,000 seems seriously daunting. Some of you might not think that’s a lot but for us it is. After we adopted her there were a few days that Ryan and I had some panic moments. But, they never happened simultaneously, that you Jesus. When I was panicking because of finances Ryan would calm me down and vice versa. From the beginning, we both told ourselves and knew that we didn’t want to make our decision based on the money. We had already seen so many miracles in that area in our life that we didn’t want to just do what was comfortable or logical but what we felt called to do. So, we jumped in with both feet. Since we said yes, we have had people without hesitation bless us financially. A family from our youth (my husbands a youth pastor) just handed us $1000. What do we say to that? I feel like “thank you” is not enough. For me I just cry.
Then, on the other side of things, we have had people say, Christian sayings…which don’t necessarily help. I know their intentions are good. But, our situation and story is very messy and hard. Our relationship with God is complex and beautiful. But, fix all, bumper stickers Christian sayings make me sad and angry. They are missing something, like feeling and emotion. Especially when they are directed at me and telling me that God will provide or take care of me. Obviously He will, the journey sometimes feels really long and His provision isn’t always what I want it to be.
For those of you who have been asking if we are taking donations or if you have been waiting for the perfect time, then now is the time! If you are reading this, I want you to know that we do NOT EXPECT people to give. Still we want people to know our story in all honesty. Sometimes it feels like walking on a tightrope. Money is a touchy subject and I think that we all could use a little more. If you have already given to us, thank you so much. You have given us the biggest gift ever, our daughter. There is no way that I could ever thank you enough.
I know that if we don’t get one more penny donated, then we will be fine. We are going to be okay. We have our daughter! She is worth every possession that we have. We would climb to the moon and back again for her.
If you do want to donate or contribute, we are doing an auction this month to have a final hooray.
- April 11-13th.
- If you have any items to donate then let me know. Also, keep an eye out for this there are some amazing items.
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We are so unbelievably thankful for all of the love. People have showed so much support, prayer and love for us over the last few months and we are so thankful.
with happy hearts,
Ryan, Kim and Nelly